The biggest lie we tell ourselves

Between daily tasks and indispensable routines to make sure the household does not crumble into chaotic cries of all who share the same roof over their heads including yourself, as women, we often put off so many things we want to accomplish four ourselves. This leaves many women feeling like they are not living their best life.  This is very unfortunate but  often very true for many.

In my opinion, three of the most essential pieces to living a life of fulfillment is spirituality, health, and peace of mind. All these pieces working in harmony makes life so much easier. However, that’s easier said than done. From personal experience, once an unexpected life event throws a monkey wrench into my harmonious symphony of life, I go into survival mode and I just focus on the top priorities… my family and my job.

Anything related to my wellness and enjoyment goes down by the wayside. Maybe because I think I’m super woman and can handle it all. Because of course, if I don’t do it “Who is? “…right?  So I begin making excuses for anything related to my self-care and personal-growth goals and before you know it the sensation complacency takes over. Complacent with life as is.

Have you ever told yourself one of these phrases in the past year?

“When I have some more time, I will go to the gym.”

“When I pay off that credit card, I will start saving additional money.”

“When I have more time, I will begin working on that project.”

“When all this personal drama is over, I will be in peace”

If you haven’t, you probably have said something similar involving time and money and putting something off for tomorrow. Tomorrow comes and it never gets done. We are so focused on making sure everything else is well taken care of that at times we are living on survival mode and not actually living because of lack of time, health, money, etc…However, that is the BIGGEST LIE we tell ourselves.

The truth is that we fail to accept that we really don’t lack any of those things…we lack SELF-DISCIPLINE. Yup! I said it. We need to stop blaming TIME and MONEY when we should be blaming our lack of self-discipline to do things essential for our self-preservation and accomplishing tasks for our personal growth.

So STOP lying to yourself. Do some soul searching on what you really want to make a priority in your life. Our priorities can change from time to time and that is ok. After all, this is life and as we all know…life is ever changing. We need to be fluid in our journey.  Go back to the drawing board and begin writing down what are things YOUR REALLY want to accomplish to improve your wellness and personal growth. What are your focused intentions for the next 6 months or for 2018 as a whole? Once you have that in place make a plan to work towards it. A dream never becomes a reality unless you act on it. Is it hard? Yes! Does it take work? Yes! It’s hard work to practice self-discipline but the results are monumental.


So next time you consider saying “When I have more … I will get to do….” Stop yourself and rephrase it. Instead rephrase it to “I will accomplish…. Because I’m going to do X, Y and Z to make it happen”.  When you have an attitude of commitment to your focused intentions and ultimately yourself, you have won half the battle.

Stop lying to yourself, go back to the drawing board of priorities, plan and practice self-discipline by committing to YOURSELF.



Angie from  AfroLatina Natural

Media pic credit: Gordon Johnson



New year’s  resolution: 5 tips to keeping it simple in 2016!

This upcoming year, I will be turning 35. I have no idea where time went but throughout the years, one of the lessons I have learned is to keep the New Year’s resolutions SIMPLE. It’s hard enough knowing that you may have not fulfilled last year’s resolutions as planned. There is no need to beat yourself up. With a new year comes new beginnings. So I made a list of tips for those of you that may need a little help  finalizing your 2016 new year’s resolutions. Get ready..set…go!

1. It is not too late to pick up where you left off
Sometimes we get so discouraged about the new year resolutions we did not fulfill the year prior, that we give up on that goal all together. In reality, reaching a goal sometimes involves some bumps along the way. As long as you get back up, dust yourself off and keep on moving forward, the goal will always be there to attain. Keep your eye on the price.

2. There is no room for people who are not on your corner.

Many times we keep people in our lives because we feel it is easier to keep them around than to go through the awkwardness of breaking ties with them. I have learned that life is too short to invest your precious time on people that don’t bring out the best in you. As you write your new year’s resolution, focus on those relationships that brought light, positivity, laughter and peace to your life. If you feel in your heart someone is no longer on your corner…it’s time to invest your time elsewhere.

3. Don’t waste time… put your plan into action.
Have you ever had an idea but kept on putting it off until you forgot about it? You lost the excitement to try to plan and put it into action? You postponed it for so long that by the time to revisited it you thought it was too late to go forward with it? It happens to the best of us. With such hectic lives sometimes priority lies on our day to day essential tasks and ideas are put aside. However, when creative juices begin to marinate in our minds, we must not ignore them. Whether is a small crafty home project, exploring a new hobby, starting a charity project or starting a new business there is NO TIME TO WASTE. Put your thoughts into action by taking the first step…write it down and list all the things you need to begin working on to materialize your idea. It does not hurt to plan.

4. Focus on what makes you happy
In addition to surrounding yourself with people that bring out the best in you, you must begin to focus on activities where your best self was able to shine through. What activities in the past have brought laughter, joy, peace or simply a good feeling? A yoga class, comedy event with friends, reading a book, travel, time with family, church group, cycling class (zumba class in my case) or simple a walk in the park. List all the activities that truly were worth your time and plan to incorporate more of that into your 2016 schedule. This will ensure a little more food for the soul in 2016. We all deserve happiness in the midst of our busy schedules.

5. Remain beautiful even the midst of chaos
As pessimistic as this may sound, there will still be some storms, inner turmoils and unfortunate events in the new year. It is part of life. However, how we choose to react to major challenges in life will determine how triumphant we will be in the end. It is in the midst of chaos where we must dig deep to truly evolve and develop strength. In my toughest moments in life when I chose to remain beautiful in the midst of chaos, it’s when I was able to achieve greatness and find wisdom after a painful experience. By no means do I mean “beauty” as a term aesthetics appealing to the eye. To remain beautiful is to find inner strength, kindness, spiritual peace and hold on to your true self even when you may feel things may be falling apart. It will require effort but it is key to get you through the storms. So when hard times come along in 2016,  tap onto your inner super powers and remain beautiful even in the midst of chaos.

Happy New Year!

Afrolatina Natural